The theme for this week is "Stop checking your brain, and heart, at the door."
Have you ever decided that something is "right"?
And then every time you're confronted with a decision about that thing, you just go to your default, without considering new information?
The next time you're confronted by an opinion that differs from your own - stop rejecting it immediately.
Pretend that a treasured and valued friend or mentor said that thing - and give it a fair shake.
During your meditation or journalling practice, think about an opinion that HUGELY differs from yours - and consider.
Ask your "inner knowing" for insight, about why someone might think that way, And wait for an answer.
Start from an assumption that the position is reasonable somehow - and get curious about that.
And it's not just about logic and your mind - please stop demonizing those who disagree. They're still people.
Stop checking your heart at the door.
Yes, other people do it.
Is that a reason you're willing to subject your values to?
When we decide on an opinion, on a position in an argument - that HUGELY affects how we interpret any information we get going forward.
We remember things that support our argument - and tend to forget things that don't.
If any information is ambiguous, we interpret it in a way favourable to the opinion we have already formed.
This is a MAJOR way that people become disconnected, and can't communicate effectively or with compassion.
You have the power to choose another path forward.
Relevant Confidence Pillars:
This theme is relevant to the self knowledge pillar - part of knowing ourselves is understanding our values, and being willing to live in a way that is consistent with them.
It's also related to the Connecting with Others pillar - do you have others that you share values with, and who you can count on to have your back?
If you aren't sure what I mean by confidence pillars, check out my confidence building framework here - https://tamsenconnects.com/confidence-2/the-pillars-of-confidence-framework/